It’s important to step out of our routine, get away from familiar surroundings to gain a new perspective.
This happens for me when I travel, but you don’t have to leave town to gain this important insight. It can be as easy as taking your spouse to the mall and offering to buy some sexy lingerie or a yummy-scented candle to ignite a spark in the relationship, or it can simply be going to dinner somewhere new and really listening to what your partner has to say.
You can even do it alone. Take a walk in the woods. Run in the rain. Spend a Saturday binging on mindless TV. Write in a journal. Meditate.
Stepping away from routine and familiarity is good for relationships. It’s good for gaining clarity. It’s good for building balance.
During a regular week, I am often stressed and that makes me not always nice to those around me.
When I leave that setting, my mood and tone change almost immediately – and it reminds me how much I need to build that in to my daily life, not just wait for special trips or occasions.
For many people, different scenes lead to a different you.
Alone Time is Powerful
Create ways to have special time by yourself, with your partner, with each of your children, and as a family. You don’t have to spring for a fancy vacation; try to find little getaways where you get to connect – make a picnic, go kayaking, stroll through a farmer’s market.
Life is cyclical, and so are relationships. Don’t fall prey to the dips and falls of those cycles; take charge by creating new places and experiences to see life differently, to gain perspective. When you do, everyone wins.