Deciding Whether to File for Divorce?
It’s 2 a.m. and you can’t sleep. Should you file for divorce? Should you end your marriage? Is there anything left to salvage in the relationship? Is it time to move on?
You haven’t been happy for a long time. You and your spouse are constantly fighting, or maybe you’re just ships passing, living separate lives, seeing each other but not really connecting.
Nothing to talk about, no shared elements of life.
Deciding To Stay or To File for Divorce
You pace the dark house, worrying and wondering. What would divorce be like? Is it the best next course of action? Will you be happier? Will you find someone else?
You sit in front of the computer or pull up your phone, and start to search under keywords like divorce and how do you know when it’s time to end a marriage.
Choosing a Divorce Lawyer
How would you choose a divorce lawyer? What if you meet with a few attorneys, and then decide to reconcile with your spouse?
First of all, know that you’re not alone. Plenty of people are up late wondering and searching, and many people meet with divorce lawyers and then decide to stay together.
Whatever you decide, wherever you are, as much back-and-forth as you endure – it’s all OK.
When you are up late wondering about your next step, think about this…
- Just speaking to a lawyer doesn’t commit you to leaving. It’s good to have information. With more information, you can make better informed decisions.
- Talking to an attorney can help you strategize what you want to do. Playing out the what-ifs and the possible scenarios paints a clearer picture of what going through a divorce would be like and whether that is even what you want.
- Listen to your body. When you think these thoughts or talk to experts, you’ll likely have a physical feeling somewhere in your body. That’s your instincts speaking, and you should listen. It will tell you what to do next.
- If you do decide to divorce, I’ve got your back. I’m here to protect you and represent you. Whether you choose me or another lawyer, our job is to be your rock. You will not go through this alone. We do this work because we care. About you, your future, your feelings, and your family.
- Divorce is not an overnight decision. And it shouldn’t be. This is a big change, and one that you should weigh and measure and evaluate before going forward.