The Life After Divorce Fantasy

August 27, 2018

If I leave him, I’ll find real love. New love. A love that lasts. If I end my marriage to her, I’ll have more money and more time to myself. Divorcing my spouse means I can finally focus on myself-the kids-my work-my golf game. These and many other variations are fantasies I’ve heard from divorce… more

True Marriage Equality

August 13, 2018

When same-sex marriage became legal, partners finally achieved the right to marry under the law. With this advancement in marriage in our country comes the right to dissolve marriages, too, and all the ugliness that can accompany it. According to this article, a Tucson mom tried to deny parenting time to her former partner, insisting… more

The Path of Uncertainty

July 30, 2018

There are times when we effortlessly move along on our journey towards the life we envisioned. As things fall into place, life presents a detour that forces us off our path. Naturally, we will do whatever it takes to follow the plans we set for ourselves. Occasionally, life pulls us in another direction. Welcome to… more

Family Law A La Carte

July 16, 2018

Changes are afoot in family court! The courts now allow family law attorneys to offer what I am calling “unbundled services.” Formally, and under the new rules that govern professional conduct and procedural practice in Michigan, this is called “limited scope representation,” (LRS) and it means you can hire an attorney for pieces of a… more

Marriage Isn’t Everything

July 2, 2018

Many of us have grown up in a fairy tale society where little girls have the vision of Disney princesses being whisked off by daring, dashing princes. They choose Halloween costumes all fluffy and shiny, with tiaras and wands. They believe that a romantic prince or king or handsome man on a gorgeous horse is their dream-come-true. Little boys believe… more

Reconciliation: Yes, It Can Happen!

June 20, 2018

Recently, a couple I’d been working with in the collaborative divorce process decided to reconcile. What a happy day for everyone! Seriously, I am not joking. We love it when people find a way to peacefully and happily resolve their issues. Whether that means going their separate ways or finding their way back to each… more

Vision for Your Life

June 6, 2018

I meet with many people who are considering getting divorced. Some have a vision for what their life will look like after they end their marriage. Some have no idea. The people who have a positive vision and are ready to take action are most likely to achieve happiness down the road. How many times… more

Divorce: 80% Emotion, 20% Law

May 23, 2018

Recently, I had the opportunity to speak at Jewish Family Service to a group of mental health professionals about the collaborative divorce process. Eleven people gathered with me on a cold and sunny February morning to discuss the legal and emotional effects of divorce. The room remained quiet, save for the scribbles of pens and… more

Celebrating The Big Days

May 11, 2018

With Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, wedding season, graduations and more on the horizon, it’s a good time to talk about what it means for divorced parents to work together. Think about if you are a teenager about to graduate high school, facing an uncertain future with college, career, love and adventure ahead. Your parents live… more

Married & Counting

May 1, 2018

What makes a successful marriage? And what makes a marriage a failure? Getting divorced does not necessarily mean a marriage failed. It could have run its course. It could have served a purpose for less than till-death-do-we-part. I’ve worked with clients who were married for decades – 20, 30, 40 years. They raised children. They… more