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Nonattachment to Outcomes

June 12, 2017

As attorneys in Collaborative practice, our outcome is the clients’. They are in control. Yes, we mind the process, facilitate negotiations, and provide information so clients can make informed decisions. In a court case, the aim is to win, emerge victorious. Not in Collaborative. Collaborative divorce law hinges on achieving a win-win for both parties, […]

Pomp & Circumstance

May 29, 2017

I read many things on a daily basis for inspiration – legal precedents and news, spiritual texts, daily emails with yogic wisdom. A recent email from OM Times about “Letting yourself be seen” inspired me to think about the ceremonies we engage in to mark times of passage in our lives. Why not create a […]

Neuroscience and Negotiation

May 15, 2017

I attended a recent workshop for family law attorneys in collaborative practice about how our brains work as attorneys and how our clients’ brains are in divorce. It turns out, the science shows that when a person is going through a divorce, their brain goes into the fight or flight reptilian mode. Thus, they’re not […]

Diversity Is Our Strength

May 1, 2017

We are, always, stronger together. The other day, a friend’s teenage son remarked that gender and race are societal constructs. “Pigment is real; race is a classification we developed to categorize people,” he said. Out of the mouths of babes, right? The truth is, people are people, with the same beating heart and blood coursing […]

All the Information

April 17, 2017

We can only negotiate well on behalf of our clients when we know all the facts. (And don’t get me started on “alternative facts.”) In divorce proceedings, settlements and judgments depend on information. What assets to the divorcing partners share? What are those assets worth? How many children? What are the ages of the children? […]

Complaining

April 3, 2017

Are you the person who always complains? Sees the glass as half-empty, the negative in every situation? Or are you the person who bristles when a friend or partner complains? The person who simply cannot understand why they must always give voice to what is wrong or unpleasant or below their satisfaction? Complaining is something […]

First Presidential Third Marriage

March 25, 2017

  Donald Trump’s Presidency brings a lot of “firsts” to America – including being the first White House leader to be in a third marriage. How might that impact the American people? It might not at all. In fact, third marriages are often more successful than second marriages for a variety of reasons. But the […]

Our Lunch & Learn Series Is Taking Off!

March 18, 2017

With emotions at an all-time high and political tensions running deep, separating friend and foe alike, I knew I had to do something. That’s why I launched Take Action this year, a lunch-and-learn monthly series, hosted at my office at 280 N. Old Woodward Ave., Suite LL20 in Birmingham, featuring a speaker on a pressing […]

Watch Your Tone

February 13, 2017

As a lawyer, I am a big fan of putting things in writing so we have a paper trail. When a client says a soon-to-be ex is threatening or lying, I need proof. The court needs proof. It can’t just be anecdotal based on all the baggage of the relationship over the years. However, there’s […]

Divorce Coaching

January 30, 2017

I’m in love with the idea of divorce coaching – and not just because it makes my job easier!! Because I think it’s brilliant. What is divorce coaching, you ask? It’s inviting a professional to work with you for the sole purpose of getting through the emotional side of your divorce. A divorce coach is […]