Don’t Rush the Process

October 16, 2017

Divorce takes time. Really, anything takes time. A client recently pushed me to move faster on her divorce because she was closing on the sale of her house and needed the divorce to happen according to that time schedule. She needed her soon-to-be-ex-husband’s signature on a temporary order so the sale could happen as it […]

Let’s Get Personal

October 2, 2017

We all get caught in our personal relationships, whether on Facebook or texting, rushing the connection to get things done and make sure we check to-dos off our list. Well, moving fast and communicating remotely with others does not serve us well. In any capacity. You’ve seen the couples out to dinner at a restaurant, […]

I’m a Super Lawyer – Again!

September 18, 2017

I am so thrilled to share the news that my peers have voted me a Super Lawyer for 2017! This makes three consecutive years of winning this prestigious designation, a peer-recognition that conveys the worth and magnitude of my dedication and practice. I am happy to be a Super Lawyer. It means my legal colleagues […]

Loving & Hating Facebook

September 4, 2017

I have a love-hate affair with Facebook. I bet we all do, if we get down to it. There is something tempting and satisfying about checking in to see all the people we know and who know us, to remember milestones and moments in the lives of other people as we race along our busy schedules, […]

Courage to Surrender Control

August 21, 2017

As a Collaborative family law attorney, I believe parties in the Collaborative Process must have the courage to surrender control to the process and let things unfold as they will. It is a specific process where the parties do the following: Sign on to the process. Gather information about finances, about children, about shared assets. […]

Cooperation as Litigation Strategy

August 7, 2017

As a litigator preparing for trial, I learned to put myself in the other party’s shoes and imagine their position or arguments in order to be prepared to respond. To know the best angle or see the potential weakness in my own case, I have to be able to see the other side. What happens […]

Conflict with an Open Heart

July 24, 2017

Why do we fight? Conflict frequently occurs when there are unspoken needs hidden behind confrontational attitudes or aggressive behavior. To resolve conflict, no matter how exasperating the disagreement may be, we should approach our opponent with an open heart, filled with compassion. Abandon judgments and blame in exchange for mutual respect. This is in line […]

Age Differences: Emmanuel & Brigitte Macron

July 10, 2017

With France’s election of 39-year-old Emmanuel Macron as its new president, the light shone on relationships between younger men and much older women. President Macron is married to Brigitte, who is 64 and was his teacher when he was younger.  (Check out the New York Times story here.) Relationships between older men and much younger […]

Friends Caught in the Middle

June 26, 2017

A woman called the other day to ask if she handled a situation correctly. A couple she and her husband are friends with are divorcing, and the husband was lying to the wife about being out of town when really, he was hanging out at the bar with this woman’s husband. When the friend found […]

Nonattachment to Outcomes

June 12, 2017

As attorneys in Collaborative practice, our outcome is the clients’. They are in control. Yes, we mind the process, facilitate negotiations, and provide information so clients can make informed decisions. In a court case, the aim is to win, emerge victorious. Not in Collaborative. Collaborative divorce law hinges on achieving a win-win for both parties, […]